When Mother’s Day is Hard


Each time this year, I begin to get a lump in my throat that sticks around for a few days. I’ve been a mom for 11 years now. It is absolutely my favorite job in the world. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. For me though, Mother’s Day also brings sadness to my heart.

It will be 10 years since I lost my mom. I was 32 years old when she died, and my oldest daughter was one and a half years old. None of my three daughters remember my mom, and that breaks my heart. While I adore being a mom of my own…I am missing my mom even more on Mother’s Day.

What do you do when stores, television commercials, and even church remind you this day is fast approaching? When I walk into the stores and see all the cards and “Best Mom” coffee mugs, my palms start to sweat and my heart aches.

I learned over the years it is okay to not make a big deal out of the day. My girls will want to bring me breakfast in bed and give me handmade cards…all of which I will receive with a grateful and blessed heart.

I’ve also learned sharing memories with my three daughters is the best medicine for me. Teaching them about my mom and things she would have wanted to share with them makes me feel closer to her.

Something I do for myself not just on Mother’s Day but quite often is go to a place where I feel my mom. For me, it’s the beach. She was a beach girl all her life. When I feel the sand between my toes and smell the salt air, I know she is near. Do you have a favorite place to retreat?

So friend, if Mother’s Day feels hard; it is okay. Take a moment to gather yourself and remember the love you have. Let your little ones snuggle a little longer and shower you with kisses. I wish you each a day filled with whatever it is you need…maybe it’s peace, maybe it’s a house full of loved ones. Remember what an incredible gift you’ve been given to be a mom.

A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go. ~ Author Unknown


  1. Oh Jen I’m so sorry. Our moms are such a big part of us every day but even more so in Mother’s day. Praying for your peace tomorrow.

  2. My child will never know my mom either… But I’m celebrating my second Mother’s Day and I’m so blessed to finally know what I meant to her… Hugs to Motherless Daughters.

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