Champagne Problems

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A few weeks ago I went to the Meghan Trainor concert with a few girlfriends. I knew most of Meghan Trainor’s songs, but there was one song that I hadn’t heard yet that I was immediately drawn to. It’s called Champagne Problems. I totally connected to it – especially with motherhood.
 
For me, motherhood has been completely overwhelming. When I moved to Charleston, I had an entirely new identity and it was very hard to adapt to. Before Charleston, I had a job that I loved, that I was successful at, at a company where I was well recognized. When I moved to Charleston, I was now trying to figure out how to be mom 24/7 with no breaks and support my husband as he grew his business. I applied for job after job after job with no luck. I felt totally beat down. I thought, “I have two degrees and plenty of experience…WHY am I constantly being rejected?!” I was buried deep in diapers, nursing, and trying to adapt to my new lifestyle in a city where I knew no one besides my in-laws. This was a huge adjustment and I wasn’t sure how to find myself again. I wasn’t finding the rewarding satisfaction with motherhood that I did in my career. I desperately missed having girlfriends to relate to. I felt very alone and wasn’t sure what to do.
 
It finally got to a point where I decided to do something about it. I am a big believer in fate and I thought that maybe I wasn’t getting a job because I needed to be at home with my daughter at that moment. So many people would do anything to be in my position. I needed to find a way to enjoy it more. I took a look at myself, my patterns, and thought about where I WANTED to be. What makes me feel good? I was overwhelmed by the little things (toys everywhere, not being able to pee by myself, etc.) and I knew that I needed to learn how to make myself happier so that these little things (champagne problems) wouldn’t bother me SO much.
 
After hearing Meghan Trainor’s song, I realized that all of my problems were champagne problems! Before this year, I never got a break from mommyhood, I was on edge way too much and was not enjoying my family the way I wanted to. I needed to do things to make me feel like more than just mommy. I determined what I needed to make me feel like ME and this is my personal list:
 
– A group of girlfriendschampagne problems
– ME time
– Time to work out
– More dates with my husband
 
=>I need to do things to make me feel like more than just mommy.
 
So I talked to my husband about it and told him I needed his help. Did you know that I never had a babysitter until my daughter was three years old!?  I decided it is ok to trust other people to watch my daughter. It was better for her and for me. I knew I needed a break from her, from my husband, from my house, so that I could really enjoy them. So, I got a babysitter! During that time I usually work out. I do everything I can to make this happen every week.
 
Let me end by saying this: champagne problems are STILL PROBLEMS.  Trust me. I still get overwhelmed by the little things. The only difference now is that I realize when I get overwhelmed and stop and think why? For example…yesterday I was a meltdown on edge beast. Why? I hadn’t worked out in almost a week, I had at least one child with me every single second for five days, and I needed a break! My husband was exhausted but he watched the kids so I could work out because he knew that was what we all needed. I still have days and weeks that are hard, but now I recognize my stressors as champagne problems and do something about them. Are you overwhelmed like I was? What is something that can make you think clearer? Do you need someone to talk to? A coach maybe? Girlfriends? A glass of champagne? Don’t be scared to put yourself out there and try something new. You are a mother for goodness sake! If you can create life and be a mother, you can do anything!  Find your tribe and do what you have to do to enjoy your life to the fullest. This is NOT being selfish – this is making you the best YOU that you can be – and everyone around you will benefit from it!
 
champ-probs-2“My new Wi-Fi doesn’t seem to work
No, no internet, that’s the worst
And my iPhone always seems to die
Right before I hit reply
But I can’t complain at all
No no, life’s too short for that
(Life’s too short for that) no, I can’t complain at all
(Life’s too short for that)
I got champagne problems, champagne problems
So pour a glass and let’s drink up all my champagne problems
I got champagne problems, champagne problems
So pour a glass and let’s drink up all my champagne problems” – Meghan Trainor
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Amy grew up in Kansas City, Kansas and graduated from the University of Kansas with a degree in Environmental Studies. Her dream was to make the world a better place by improving the environment for everyone. After getting her dream job in Texas, she met the love her of her life, Evan; they had a beautiful daughter in 2012 and moved to Mount Pleasant in 2013. Amy intended on continuing to work in the field of Sustainability (all things green and ecofriendly) but ended up being a SAHM. Although she found it a blessing to be able to stay home full time with her daughter, she struggled to find herself in her new identity. In 2014, her family expanded with a son and with his birth she began to be more confident as both a woman and a mother, and lover of the Lowcountry. She turned her love of family and the environment into a business (www.de-cluttered.com) that allows her to keep her family first while helping others. Through de-cluttered, Amy helps families deep clean their homes, taking the weight of clutter off of their shoulders and donating those extra items to local charities throughout Charleston. Amy also loves being at the beach, having an adventure, connecting with new people and is always looking to learn something new.