Being a woman is a hard thing. Being a mom is a hard thing. Taking care of a home and the people in it is definitely a hard thing. But we can do it, and we should do it.
So what is it all for?
Do you ever find yourself wondering, “What’s the purpose of all of this?” You may find a literal purpose, like how the dishes have to be washed so they don’t sit in the sink and draw flies to them. Or how the laundry has to be done because our kid has stains on their shirt that need to get out quickly before they set in.
But what is the actual, real, this-is-why-we-have-to-do-this purpose? It’s to bless our family, keep them healthy, and bring them happiness. Does it really matter? Yes, it does…because we want the best for them.
I could stop writing here because it seems so simple, yet it’s so much more complex when we add up all the things we have to do every day, every week, every month of the year just to keep things flowing in our homes. They often go unnoticed…or so we think anyway. Especially if your love language is words of affirmation, you may find yourself struggling to feel the love sometimes.
The chores that have to be completed, the meals that have to be prepared, the organizing and planning that has to be done…
It’s a lot! In order to give yourself adequate grace, there should be an understanding of why we are doing all of this anyway. It helps to lighten the load mentally. It gives us a clearer mind to actually be more productive when we realize our purpose is an important one.
One of my favorite series of books is the Little House series. There is so much wisdom in these stories that Laura tells about the home she and her sisters grew up in. Ma Ingalls ran a tight ship in her household. She had cleaning routines and valued keeping a tidy, inviting, and orderly home.
I’m a Christian, therefore the greatest purpose in my life for striving to be a “successful” homemaker is to please the Lord. While I understand this isn’t everyone’s belief, there is a universal reason to “keep on keepin’ on” that almost any mom could agree with, and that is the love we have for our families.
The mother is the shaper of the home. She sees more than anyone else does. She notices the small details that no one else can. She has the special touch to create an environment that is inviting to all.
Sometimes we don’t have time for the “special touches” due to our budget, the season of life we are in, or our tight schedules. But it doesn’t mean our homemaking is any less valuable. There is nothing that measures how good you are as a homemaker, and trying to keep up with the Jones’ will only wear you down more.
We carry a heavy load, and it can be hard to look beyond the task at hand to see the bigger picture, but we do it because we love our family. That is our main purpose, and that’s why being a homemaker really does matter.